I'm not a genius, nor do I believe I'm the absolute best at what I do.
It took me 30 years to realize that, no matter how good I am, networking often determines success. I'm in a career I don't enjoy, unable to move up or change, while others get jobs through connections. About 80% of my colleagues were hired this way, while a few of us got in by luck.
Networking seems to drive career advancement.
I'm naturally a loner and find it hard to feign interest in others' lives. I prefer spending time alone and struggle to genuinely connect with people.
Emotional intimacy drains me, and I dread future interactions, even though I know this is normal.
While I'm okay being alone, I feel that relationships are crucial for progress after a certain point.
I even broke up with my partner because I can't handle constant companionship. It was so draining that I stopped enjoying sexual intimacy.
I'm fine without a partner; I don't want to subject anyone to my solitude. However, I want to change careers, and I know connections are vital.
I'm feeling stuck and unsure how to move forward. It seems the two crucial factor (luck and networking) are outside my influence.
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